Four Suggestions For Getting Out Of Your Stuck Rut
Stuck. I have found myself, time over time, stuck in this phase where nothing around me seems like it is moving. You know, when there is this massive pressure on your chest and you have no fucking idea what is wrong—your only answer is “everything”. When trying to explain the feeling, it seems as if no one around you gets it. It ends up feeling like you are just annoying whoever you are talking to; you do not want to be this negative. If you are anything like me, then you have found yourself awake at 3:00 a.m. scrolling through Wiki Answers trying to find answers for your googled question: “how to be happy”, “how to be positive” and “how to let go of things”.
Despite the great suggestions, I end up lighting another cigarette and staying awake for another couple of hours. I am left with no will power what so ever to do anything remotely productive. This only stuck me lower down the hole of “what the crap am I doing with my life”. I know not everyday is like that; I do have positive days. However, this is excessively consuming if you do not find a way out. So here are a few suggestions that help me:
– DO NOT EVER COMPARE.
Stop, if you already do, comparing yourself to the people around you. Sometimes, I look around and think of what other people, my age, have accomplished. I find myself belittling my achievements. It is good to remember that every person goes through different hardships and experiences. It is good to be inspired by others, yet do not put yourself down. You are your own human being with your own pace and you are not stuck where you are forever.
-TAKE A STEP BACK.
I cannot emphasize enough on the positive effect of taking a step backwards and looking at things from an objective perspective. This concept of *exiting the “limitations” of your self-indulged perspective* is truly liberating. People tend to see what they want to see and that is how we mask reality. This ideology is diverse and can easily manipulate a situation. I know it is difficult to detach yourself from feelings associated with a certain factor; yet practicing the art of being objective allows you to see other sides to what you may be going through. Usually, people choose to talk to a friend to get another perspective—but it doesn’t always make them feel better. Being capable of fully acknowledging the reality of a situation, in my opinion, is the first step toward crossing it.
-TAKE A LONG WALK/ PUSH YOURSELF PHYSICALLY.
Whenever I am feeling all clustered mentally and emotionally, I find myself going on long walks. My usual daily walk is around 30 minutes. Yet, when I am feeling like I am stuck in a rut, I go on longer walks with higher intensities—such as faster speed and inclined roads. Not only is this the only time I am somehow zoned out thinking my issues through; but also, the concept of breaking a physical barrier somehow makes me feel more “free?”. Basically, exercising helps in exhausting me physically in the sense that I somehow have acquired some sort of achievement.
-A PAMPERING DAY
Self-love is essential and the base of genuine happiness. When one feels like they are stuck in rut, he/she may tend to associate negatives thoughts—ones that may be directed toward themselves. That is why, when I am down, I find the act of practicing self-love as one that brings me motivation. Personally, I like talking a long shower with hair treatments, facial masks afterwards, a nice outfit and applying makeup etc. Basically pampering. I would have said spa treatment but my broke ass can’t afford that so I won’t be bullshitting you. Anywho… my point is that I end up feeling fresh and beautiful. With that kind of confidence boost, I have enough motivation to make a change that day—even if it were a small change. Baby steps at first, and then you will start running!
With that being said, I hope that my advice somehow works for you the way they work for me. It is okay to feel down as long as you process things in order to eventually feel better—because you are a human being and you deserve to feel just as amazing you truly are!