Dealing With Family Is NOT Easy, But You Can Make It Easier
Its true, not everybody is going to get you—and sometimes, family is no exception. Sometimes your family constitutes the last people on earth who will actually understand. This creates this invisible suffocating gas. You know, the one that sucks up all the breathable air in your house—you’re chocking. Not one single breath can be taken. You are listening to songs that scream out “this place is not a home”. You want to break everything just to get the people around you to open their eyes, see and for once UNDERSTAND. Yet, even after another argument, another door shut and countless tears; nothing has changed.
You know they are going to pretend like nothing happened, like everything is OKAY (only in the case they moved on) and you are going to sit there feeling dumbfounded—as if your feelings do not matter.
Here is my solution. Circumstances are different, so this is not 100% guaranteed to work. YET, it can actually be a way of thinking that might aid in avoiding or solving a situation.
“THE ACT OF *RESPECTFULLY* NOT GIVING A FUCK”.
Do not let the title deceive you, you do not have to turn into a careless asshole (as tempting as that sounds).
But the truth is, its not really being the bigger person, they just say that so you do not sound like a prick. It is about legit not caring when someone does you wrong. I mean yes, it stings. However, you can save yourself the energy, time and your general well-being. Let’s give a small example. Your sibling found you wearing their shirt—the one they threw away. They throw a bitch fit and make you feel absolutely worthless. How about you just walk away. When you bump into them again in a couple of hours, smile and be your friendly self. They are still pissed; do not care. You did the right thing. You avoided pointless arguments and negativity.
Obviously this is a very downsized example, but I am just trying to draw the greater image. Family is Family, you are stuck with it or you can distance yourself from the unnecessary negativity. You do not always have to be a positive butterfly—sometimes it is just not in you. But you also do not have to drive yourself insane because of things you know you can shrug off.